Subject: Re: Hunter
From: "Kathleen Biden" <[email-masked]>
To: <[email-masked]>
Cc: "George Kolodner" <[email-masked]>, "Babette Wise" <[email-masked]>, "Debbie Schechter" <[email-masked]>, "Elaine Altmire" <[email-masked]>, <[email-masked]>
Date: Fri, 17 Jun 2016 17:34:41 -0400

I'm sorry the email upset you.  I'm just looking for direction and advice.  Difficult to get conflicting advice.  

The girls and I are ready to support your out-patient program and hope you are feeling the support you need.  

I included you to make sure we are all on the same page.  I just want to do what is best for the girls and to help your sobriety.  

Sent from my iPhone

> On 17 Jun 2016, at 4:44 PM, [email-masked] wrote:
> 
> Sorry for the typos- very upsetting to me.
> 
> RHB
> 202-333-1880
> 
>> On Jun 17, 2016, at 4:43 PM, [email-masked] wrote:
>> 
>> Dr. I have not given my consent for Kathleen to receive any information. I'd you want a unbiased 3rd party opinion about how the meeting pleas call Debbie right away.
>> 
>> RHB
>> 202-333-1880
>> 
>>> On Jun 17, 2016, at 4:39 PM, Kathleen Biden <[email-masked]> wrote:
>>> 
>>> Ok.  So I can be clear, the program is five days a week, he has nothing on weekends, he is tested every day?  Is it appropriate for us to understand his commitment to program?  I know that eventually it tapers but would be helpful to know when that happens.  Is he also going to meetings every day?  
>>> 
>>> Thank you
>>> 
>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>> 
>>>> On 17 Jun 2016, at 2:50 PM, George Kolodner <[email-masked]> wrote:
>>>> 
>>>> Kathleen,
>>>> I am sorry to hear that you and your daughters are feeling such stress. My understanding of the current plan is:
>>>> 1. Debbie will let you know if Hunter has relapsed or stop coming to the program so that you can restrict his contact with the girls.. We will not contact you as long as he is attending and abstinent.
>>>> 2. Debbie and Elaine will be talking about their recommendation for the next contact -- I understand that Fathers Day is being considered -- and will call you after they have talked.
>>>> I hope that this helps to clarify the situation.
>>>> George Kolodner
>>>> 
>>>>> On Fri, Jun 17, 2016 at 1:51 PM, Kathleen Biden <[email-masked]> wrote:
>>>>> My girls were upset about their meeting with Debbie yesterday.  They feel that the conflicting advice between specialists leaves them feeling like they have been put in the middle and don't know what they are suppose to do.
>>>>> 
>>>>> As for me, I still would like to feel reassured that he is attending the program and being tested.  I haven't gotten that and don't know what the best way to do it.  I leave it to you all.
>>>>> 
>>>>> I want Hunter to be sober and live a life where he can feel good.  I want to do what's best for him and protect my girls and their relationship with Hunter.
>>>>> 
>>>>> If the consensus is for Hunt to try out patient again, ok.  If it's best for everyone for girls to resume talking and seeing Hunt, ok.  They, and I, only want to do what is best for him.
>>>>> 
>>>>> I am exhausted and don't want to make the decisions.  I want advice and will follow it.  The girls feel like they have been left to make difficult decisions regarding their dad.  I told them I'll support what the doctors and therapists recommend.
>>>>> 
>>>>> Please help us to make the right decision to support Hunt's sobriety while protecting the well being of my daughters.
>>>>> 
>>>>> Also, if you could agree on how best to notify me as to Hunt's attendance and test results, that would be helpful.
>>>>> 
>>>>> Thank you
>>>>> 
>>>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>>> 
>>>> 
>>>> 
>>>> -- 
>>>> George Kolodner, M.D. DLFAPA FASAM
>>>> Medical Director
>>>> Kolmac Outpatient Recovery Center